I found a pornographic mag in my dad’s cupboard. Is he a pervert?

The other day I found a pornographic magazine in my father’s cupboard. I was aghast. Of course I enjoyed reading it, because I have only seen porn on the internet, and I was taken aback by the differences between watchmygf.xxx and actual physical pornography. But I wonder why he had it? What should my reaction be? Is my father a pervert? Or is he also human and there’s nothing wrong in reading erotica?

Oh Teri! Father. Dear Father, Haven’t you heard of locks that work on cupboards? Sorry, that was meant for your stupid father..

But seriously, let Dad man have his privacy! Why the hell are you snooping in his cupboard? Aren’t there other cupboard you can stick you head into? I bet you wouldn’t like it if your dad was snooping through your internet history and finding sites like hdsexvideo, would you?

So, my child, remember how curiosity killed the cat and all that? What if there’s a ghost living in his cupboard? Imagine!

No, no snooping, young man! Be a good boy and stick to your cupboard in the future. I know his cupboard is more interesting and you get to read all these hot mags, but give him a break, handsome. You have an overdose of all that on the internet as it is, what with sites like hdpornt around.

Honestly, am beginning to wonder as to who the pervert here is, eh?

Dr Know’s Gyaanology: Reading a porn magazine or porn literature doesn’t necessarily make the person a pervert. In fact it’s probably a safer outlet than chasing some woman (or man) on the street! No, I am sure your Dad isn’t a pervert.

Most men are attracted to a woman’s (or man’s) body and nudes are a big thing so checking them out in a magazine is pretty normal. Now that goes for girls too and drooling over handsome hunks is pretty much part of life…

It is all good and human as long as it is in metered doses, Now that goes for you too, with your internet habits. These things can get addictive so don’t you dare overdo any of this or spend too long on adult entertainment websites such as twinki.xxx.

Dad, are you listening?

Dr Know, I find that my girlfriend doesn’t get as touchy-and-feely while conversing with me as the girlfriends of various other friends. So I often feel that she doesn’t love me or care about me as much as the girlfriends of others. What is your view? Is there a way I can get my gf to get more expressive in her ways… Hold my hand more often or just lean her head against my shoulders… etc etc. Your advice?

Awww! Someone wants to be the eternal teddy bear! Tho tweet!!! This touchy-feely business sounds a bit shady though, despite the graphic detail of it being limited to holding hands. Tsk Tsk. What a pity.

Well, you could try using those fancy deodorants advertised on TV. One ‘Psst’ and all the women will come and fall all over you, touchy-feely and all that! It may just work with her too! Make sure you take her move away from the crowd and then do this ‘Psst’ business, lest the entire girl population piles onto you.

If that happens you can be sure she will ‘axe’ you my Darling!

Dr Know’s Gyaanology: C’mon cheer up Dearie.. Stop reading between the lines and imagining things. She probably loves you too much to even think about what the world thinks of your relationship. So just chill, chill, chill!

Just last week, one of my good college pals told me he was gay. And then I learn he was bisexual . All sounds very disgusting to be so open about one’s sexual orientation. Or is this the new reality?

Are you honestly disgusted knowing this about your friend? I guess it greatly depends on the individual, so I don’t blame you for being put off by all this talk on sexuality. Each to his own!

It’s true, this is the reality today. The younger generations is far more open about discussing their preferences sexual or otherwise and this is probably the need of the hour. Moreover, what is the big issue anyway?

Dr Know’s Gyaanology: Yes there are legalities etc that vary from country to country but this doesn’t necessarily mean this is taboo.

I know of several youngsters who discuss all this very nonchalantly. Most tend to think it’s fine, though there is still a section of the youth who may quietly loathe this. Often it’s just peer pressure that gets them to join the band and say all this is cool.

Honestly, it doesn’t matter as long as the individuals know what they are doing and what the pros and cons are. After all there’s a whole life ahead and if they’re sexually oriented, they ought to know what’s good for them!

I got married two years back, and find that I am mentally and sexually attracted to a colleague. I love my husband, but this colleague is smarter, more educated, more caring and I also think he will be good to me, in every possible way. But it’s not that my husband is a bad guy. I don’t know what to do. Please show me the path.

What a moron you are! Sorry but this is all I can say. Infidelity is lethal and just not worth it. Sorry, Baby, but Dr. Know is young, sharp and whacky but far from insane.

Hold your Hormones, Darling! There are other ways to stay happy be it sexually or mentally. Learn to behave before someone teaches you too!

And moreover, would you think it’s ok if your husband were to find a lovely, sexy woman who loves him more than anything?

Dr Know’s Gyaanology: Since you ask, the path is simple. It’s called common sense and respect. You have to learn to respect your spouse and more so, when he’s a good human being. Be sensible, you’re not a nubile teenager any longer…!

Finally my readers have begun to spice up their lives! ‘Dr Know Khush Hua’. So till next week then, be good or at the least, be sensible! By the way, reading about the birds and bees can help. Keep these good ones coming sweethearts; Inbox me at DrKnow@pune365.com and you can be dog sure I will get to them soon enough. Cheerio!