Weed Out A Toxic Relationship To Stay Happy, Say These Puneites

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“I am leaving you for me. Whether I am incomplete, or you are incomplete is irrelevant. Relationships can only be built with two wholes. I am leaving you to continue to explore myself: the steep, winding paths in my soul, the red, pulsing chambers of my heart. I hope you will do the same. Thank you for all the light and laughter that we have shared. I wish you a profound encounter with yourself.” ~ Peter Schaller

It often happens that even though we are surrounded by people, we tend to feel emotionally and physically drained, isolated and feel the need to be alone in our space.  

The people we surround ourselves with play a major role in our overall well-being. Hence it is often sensible to weed out those relationships that are proving toxic for you.

They destroy your development and mental peace, says these Puneites sharing their tips for a more peaceful life.

“Needless to say, it is difficult to move away from people we love, but it is equally senseless to give someone the power to destroy you again and again,” shares Arti Chawla, a Marketing executive.

“I did this quite a few times thinking that we haven’t put in enough efforts enough to stay together, but rather focused on how it wasn’t working for us.

It is not that we don’t love someone anymore, yet, it is not always necessary that you are compatible with someone you love. There may be ego clashes or difference of opinions but staying put with your ideologies and protecting your self-esteem is also important if you aren’t getting that,” Arti adds.

“It doesn’t necessarily mean cutting ties completely with someone without even giving them any explanations of your act. It is really about getting a sense of how you feel without them.

Start with social cleansing- going offline from social media or electronic devices, going on a vacation, reading a book and keeping yourself busy.

“Just being a liability in a relationship purely because you think things may work out without actually seeing any signs can render us anxious and spoil our mental peace,” shares Dheeraj Rana, a freelance writer.

“I had to move out of my house as I was claustrophobic living in a house where the two most important people in my life stayed under a roof just for my sake,” Kedar Awasthi, a photographer.

“It was traumatising to see them fight over a bowl of over-salted curry, excessive electricity bills, not being able to meet friends and socialise because the other may think he is happy when everything is a mess at home.

People may think my moving out was a foolish decision, but why kill three lives by pretending to be a good family in front of the society.

After 14 months of staying out, I think I am a very different person from what I was. I have a different perspective to life and do not crib on how my parents didn’t give me a normal family life.

I get their love from where they are and that is enough for me,” Kedar adds.


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Loveleen Kaur

Loveleen Kaur

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