“I’m a Free Spirit, Intensely Loyal yet Independent”

February 15, 2017

Love them and yet, don’t trust them? You’re not alone. A lot of people can’t shake the nagging feeling, that their boo may just be playing the field. After all, trusting someone can be difficult with your heart at stake.

Ironically, in some cases cheating stems from trust issues and poor self-esteem. Kushagra Jaiswal (23), confirms this, admitting “I met a wonderful girl, but as I saw us getting serious, I wasn’t sure if I could handle commitment. When she spoke about forever, I flirted around. I didn’t want to disappoint her you see, but my actions ended up hurting her anyway.”

At other times, it is jumping onto the love train far too soon that results in baggage from the last relationship. Sriti Sonar (30), shares such an experience stating, “My ex had feelings for his girl-best friend. He always sang her praises to me and eventually left when she finally reciprocated his feelings. I didn’t see it coming, so I was heartbroken.

“Fast forward a year, I’m seeing someone. I couldn’t be happier, but I can’t help suspect him. I’m sad to admit that I gave him a really hard time about his female best friend. I guess it was those old feelings of insecurity that resurfaced,” she muses.

It can be equally trying to be with a mistrustful partner. Aditi Bhati (26), a doctor voices her woes about her suspicious partner saying, “I’m a free spirit, intensely loyal yet fiercely independent. A workaholic, I’m completely in the zone when at the hospital.

“My patients demand my undivided attention and I offer it. However, missing phone calls and failing to hang out most evenings does not go down well with my partner. He even broke it off recently because of it, although we have managed to patch things up.”

Vansh Dharmadhikari (34) speaks of his own saga, “To me, relationships are like mutual funds, as conditions apply*. My loyalty is conditional on reciprocated trust. I found out that my partner of four years often checked my phone when I was in the shower. It was wily and immature. She tried to justify it by saying that she didn’t want to be blinded by love, but needed proof of my fidelity. It was hurtful and hard to stomach, but I’m pleased to say we’re working through it in therapy.”

More often than not, partaking in a relationship is a sure-fire way to experience pain. Nevertheless, the tricky maze of finding your soulmate is best navigated with a generous dash of trust and ample conviction in your choice.